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The 90-second rule isn't just useful. 

It will change your entire life.

While it changed mine.

Think about the last time you angry?

If you're like most, it probably went something like this...

That's not right, how can they do that?

You begin thinking about it. It makes you angry.

You feel slighted, irritated, and mad.

Your heart rate rises, you begin feeling an impulse to yell or argue; you find yourself all wound up.

Here is what really happened.

1. You had thought.
2. Your thought stimulated emotions.
3. Your body experiences a physiological response because of emotions.

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Here is where the cerebral cortex gets involved; the part of our brain responsible for logical thought and reasoning.

After 90 seconds, we have 2 choices.

Left or Right. Red pill. blue pill.

We can swallow the blue pill and do what feels natural. Continue ruminating in our head; thinking angry thoughts. Triggering another 90 seconds. Jumping back on that hamster wheel.

Or, maybe. Just maybe, we can try the red pill.

The unpleasant truth. To do what feels unnatural. To sit with the emotions. To watch them. To be calm.

And when 90 seconds pass, just move on. Refusing to spark the emotional tinder with another thought. Because eventually, something will catch fire; before you know it, you have turned 90 seconds into days