After a while, let's say 45 days I have gotten rid of Instagram, I decided to go back. Why? To be honest, I am kind of run a business there, so I could not give any quotes for refusing. 

I know, I know, social media itself is not only Instagram. I have been stopped using Facebook, Twitter, and other social media exceptionally Whatsapp, I use it for gaining quick, and instant communication. Unfortunately, I found the most common toxic environments were from there(inst*gram). Well, I was just saying from my point of view because I used it most of the time and I always ended up spending a lot of time doing scroll up and down its timeline which I thought unhelpful. 

Still, many people are getting jobs, gaining some money, making new friends, or even reuniting with their old friends. Thanks, because social media we can do everything simpler through our phone. I can not probably blame them. I, on the other hand, won't be able to get rid of it since I have started my business there. 

Social media has become a powerful business to use in connecting with their customers. That's it. The main reason why I literally am going back. But, not to be sorry, I won't discuss it. Things I would like to talk about is how big the impact this social media itself to us personally. 

It was pretty simple. I felt uneasy. So much unnecessary feelings and stuff came up which was not even needed comparing after quitting from this.

There are several impacts that I actually have calculated:

1. Welcome to The Unreal Reality Peeps.

The challenge is that this sucks us until an unreal reality. It is nobody's fault that we all completely enjoy sharing positive things about ourselves into play when we are only exposed to all the amazing things people are doing. 

"The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." 

– Steven Furtick

It didn't have to be this way.

The key to understanding social media depression lies in the social norm that has emerged around how to manage Instagram's feeds or context collapse in a way that is acceptable in all contexts. That social norm is being your perfect self. And the consequence of that is we are all performing our perfect selves, thus all making each other feel depressed and inadequate by not even realizing it.  

When I was very active on Instagram often considering what photo should I post and what kind of effect I applied? Which was made the post showed more perfection. It totally wasted my time. I could probably spend hours editing one picture only for getting the perfection I wanted.

2. Unrealize comparing perfection.

We have a brain that is naturally wired to protect us, so it is constantly on the lookout for any threats in our environment. One way it does this is by comparing us to that of everyone else–to see where we measure up in the world. If another person (you see through the timeline or when you stalking their accounts intentionally) has a better job, relationship, or life than, it can create instant internal reflection and make you question what you are not doing right or what you really need to do more of.

So if you are going on social media and subconsciously comparing yourself to this unreal reality of perfection, it's going to potentially make you feel less of yourself. And when you repeat this many times each day, you are ultimately training this lower way of thinking and feeling into your mind.

3. Real Connection.

One Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the world's longest studies of adult life, researchers have collected a cornucopia of data on their physical and mental health, that spanned over 74 years, focused on what makes people happy, and the result was one simple thing. The strength of the relationships in their lives. 

"Close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives," writes Liz Mineo, Harvard staff writer.

The concern is focused on that other studies are finding that loneliness is on the rise today, especially among young people. Nowadays more people feel lonelier than ever before, yet we are supposedly more connected at the same time, isn't it? With all the messages and interacting with so many people; but to which level? is it actually establishing close relationships or just surface ones?

To do with current reality, the real question should be, how many social media interactions, likes, comments, and messages equate to the connection we get from being in the presence of a person? By reason of most of the time, when you eventually do physically meet or hang out with people you have been connecting by online, you will find out they are not as perfect as you once thought. They either do have flaws, insecurities, or challenges, and you realize that they are obviously like everybody else. You also realize cause you are not alone in whatever you may be going through in your life or business.

Please spend your time watching Robert Waldinger as he recorded his TED Talk, titled "What Makes a Good Life? Lessons from the Longest Study on Happiness," in 2015, and it has been viewed over millions of viewers. It is also worthwhile to be watched. This video has added to my a-must-been watched-list-TEDtalks.