One day after scrolling quora timeline and reading so many good answers from each Quorans, I got one mind-blowing answer about self-development in which a small lamp suddenly popped into my mind.

He wrote that to do a little step further to change our life for the better by doing small things like;

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5.....

And blablabla.

And I was interested in number 7. It's written,

"Try to write down all your 10 dreams and list on for every single day."

It's simple. Wasn't it? At least that was what I thought after reading the whole answer and probably got a good one. 

He had told us, the reader, how exactly to do it. Just prepared a piece of paper, even could be the smallest one which had enough space to write all those 10 dreams.

(That small book actually I've been using since the first day)

Hey, I know it's funny enough but I had determined it as one of the most efficient ways, the simplest and the cheapest, It cost only for IDR 3.5K not even $1, right? I also had to get rid of the printed words and to focus on my handwriting.

It doesn't mean we cannot use any other books. Of course, we can. However, just put hvs or an unused old paper book and place it on top of the desk and start writing on.

You get this? Want to try before I show how's mine?

Okay, let's get your lazy ass up, buddy, and grab a piece of paper with a pen. Don't forget back to your sit.

Find your best sitting position, make sure it's comfortable cause we're going through thinking about the hard ones.

Here we go.

• First, for the number one and top priority, write your biggest desire for this right time. Remember, just one for each number. Think about it seriously. I only ask for this time, what exactly things you want most that pop out in your mind now.
• Second, write your second dream under the most top priority. 
• It goes the same for the rest
• The bigger we write the number, it becomes something harder that needs more time to get the nod.
• Or just write randomly for 10 dreams, goals, or any ideas that you have

Here it's mine. 

(My first pages of the journey)

I have started it on the 2nd of July. I did wake up at 4 AM and did some morning routines before preparing this little book and sit my self down around 5.30 AM, the time set up. 

We didn't need much time spending upon it, to write all the list took only 3 minutes though might be longer, depending on how much seriousness you gained with.

At first, I felt nothing. Nothing didn't change me at all, thoroughly just the passing breeze, at that time.

And then it began.

Day 2, 

Day 3, 

Day 10,

Day 14, 

Day 25, and the changes started to be seen.

(My 31st day on 3rd August)

My handwriting was getting worse. Even though I had blurred it out, still, I could have guessed it was bad.

Wow, it was starting easy day by day. The compulsion that usually came up when I had to write this down no longer existed. It was all gone.

And, this was the latest list of my dreams.

(I didn't blur it because it was already hurt our eyes by seeing how worst it was. haha)

Believed it or not, but I met my final pages of this journey. Woohoo! 50 pages, you were my every single dream of, but to write all those were totally a piece of cakes. Haha.

The question is, what lesson I get from doing this?

The answer lies primarily with Consistency.

Take one of the sentences from Fumio Sasaki's book "Goodbye, Things on Minimalist living" (page 162) it maybe doesn't have any relations with his topic, but it does with consistency.

If I could offer any aspiring creative by one piece of advice, it's this. Developing a habit of consistently doing something. It doesn't matter what it is, how small, or how big it is.

• It can be as simple as talking to a native from a language application to increase our speaking skill

• it can be as hardcore as drawing one illustration a day or doing a project

• it can be as simple as meditating for five minutes

• it can be as simple as writing a daily journal or 10 to-do list

"Stop searching rather be realizing our true happiness."

"Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. But today is a gift, that's why we called it the present." said Master Oogway

7. Decrease for being a procrastinator

Being procrastinator adalah jalan ninjaku. haha. It was but also it is. We understand that procrastination seems more interesting than finishing up all our businesses in the first place because we barely can do other fun and interesting things freely like playing video games, watching Netflix, reading many books, or even taking care of our cat *meow*. The truth is our mind always links to this burden which is an incomplete task shouting for attention to be finished immediately.

Isn't it annoying? I know it is but I cannot stop for being this. Meanwhile, I can a little bit decrease it.

Instead of blaming myself, I better procrastinate for a reason. Let's call it "Procrastinate with purposes".

8. Always having a dozen plan from A-Z

As human beings, of course, we always imagining big things and expect nothing except good endings, making a dozen plans before doing something is never be a fault, it's a must. Nevertheless, Allah is always the best planner ever.

"And [Remember, O Muhammad], when those who disbelieved plotted against you to restrain you or kill you or evict you [from Makkah]. But they plan, and Allah plans. And Allah is the best planners."(Al-Anfal [8:30])

After a while, let's say 45 days I have gotten rid of Instagram, I decided to go back. Why? To be honest, I am kind of run a business there, so I could not give any quotes for refusing. 

I know, I know, social media itself is not only Instagram. I have been stopped using Facebook, Twitter, and other social media exceptionally Whatsapp, I use it for gaining quick, and instant communication. Unfortunately, I found the most common toxic environments were from there(inst*gram). Well, I was just saying from my point of view because I used it most of the time and I always ended up spending a lot of time doing scroll up and down its timeline which I thought unhelpful. 

Still, many people are getting jobs, gaining some money, making new friends, or even reuniting with their old friends. Thanks, because social media we can do everything simpler through our phone. I can not probably blame them. I, on the other hand, won't be able to get rid of it since I have started my business there. 

Social media has become a powerful business to use in connecting with their customers. That's it. The main reason why I literally am going back. But, not to be sorry, I won't discuss it. Things I would like to talk about is how big the impact this social media itself to us personally. 

It was pretty simple. I felt uneasy. So much unnecessary feelings and stuff came up which was not even needed comparing after quitting from this.

There are several impacts that I actually have calculated:

1. Welcome to The Unreal Reality Peeps.

The challenge is that this sucks us until an unreal reality. It is nobody's fault that we all completely enjoy sharing positive things about ourselves into play when we are only exposed to all the amazing things people are doing. 

"The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." 

– Steven Furtick

It didn't have to be this way.

The key to understanding social media depression lies in the social norm that has emerged around how to manage Instagram's feeds or context collapse in a way that is acceptable in all contexts. That social norm is being your perfect self. And the consequence of that is we are all performing our perfect selves, thus all making each other feel depressed and inadequate by not even realizing it.  

When I was very active on Instagram often considering what photo should I post and what kind of effect I applied? Which was made the post showed more perfection. It totally wasted my time. I could probably spend hours editing one picture only for getting the perfection I wanted.

2. Unrealize comparing perfection.

We have a brain that is naturally wired to protect us, so it is constantly on the lookout for any threats in our environment. One way it does this is by comparing us to that of everyone else–to see where we measure up in the world. If another person (you see through the timeline or when you stalking their accounts intentionally) has a better job, relationship, or life than, it can create instant internal reflection and make you question what you are not doing right or what you really need to do more of.

So if you are going on social media and subconsciously comparing yourself to this unreal reality of perfection, it's going to potentially make you feel less of yourself. And when you repeat this many times each day, you are ultimately training this lower way of thinking and feeling into your mind.

3. Real Connection.

One Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the world's longest studies of adult life, researchers have collected a cornucopia of data on their physical and mental health, that spanned over 74 years, focused on what makes people happy, and the result was one simple thing. The strength of the relationships in their lives. 

"Close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives," writes Liz Mineo, Harvard staff writer.

The concern is focused on that other studies are finding that loneliness is on the rise today, especially among young people. Nowadays more people feel lonelier than ever before, yet we are supposedly more connected at the same time, isn't it? With all the messages and interacting with so many people; but to which level? is it actually establishing close relationships or just surface ones?

To do with current reality, the real question should be, how many social media interactions, likes, comments, and messages equate to the connection we get from being in the presence of a person? By reason of most of the time, when you eventually do physically meet or hang out with people you have been connecting by online, you will find out they are not as perfect as you once thought. They either do have flaws, insecurities, or challenges, and you realize that they are obviously like everybody else. You also realize cause you are not alone in whatever you may be going through in your life or business.

Please spend your time watching Robert Waldinger as he recorded his TED Talk, titled "What Makes a Good Life? Lessons from the Longest Study on Happiness," in 2015, and it has been viewed over millions of viewers. It is also worthwhile to be watched. This video has added to my a-must-been watched-list-TEDtalks.

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• It boosts performance during exercise: Some scientists have proposed that consuming more water might enhance performance during strenuous activity.
• WEIGHT LOSS: Water may also help with weight loss if it is consumed instead of sweetened juices and sodas. "Preloading" with water before meals can help prevent overeating by creating a sense of fullness, etc.

How do we intake it?

Okay. I am going to tell you how. Regularly, I always put my 800ml bottle above my desk right beside my bed. So, when I wake up, take a little dazed away, sitting up, and my vision exactly points to that bottle. Without any quotes, I get up reaching my bottle and then drink it all out. That's the first move through the beginning just started. I have to finish my 2.8 liters left.

“Brains are in the business of gathering information and steering behavior appropriately. It doesn’t matter whether consciousness is involved in decision making. And most of the time, it’s not.”

Our future will be the result of how effectively each one of us managed time and change.

Are your habits outdated?

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Our thoughts affect our souls.

Our thoughts designed by us.

However, to look after what book you read, the film you watch, the music you listen to, what social media you completely download are, or even your kind of its timeline is of great importance.

For the better or worse, our habits shape us